If we are dealing with affairs, lies cheating any kind of infidelity to share and talk about this is very difficult and scary and can change our lives completely. If our marriage is failing, this can be very scary especially if there are children. If we are newly single after a relationship break down it can be difficult to admit to people how lonely and isolated you are feeling, this confusion, fear, loneliness can create depression and anxieties in us, and it’s at this time we look to go into counselling/therapy, so at our most vulnerable, we choose to take the hardest and biggest step in our lives, so how can I help ?
In my experience when we are struggling with our intimate relationships it seems to have a ripple effect on all our relationships including work, siblings and friends.
We can feel isolated from others like friends and family, we can feel like the relationship is all you can think about, this can have the effect of seeming to spill over into everything else you do, work, children, family, and friends.
Being in a relationship that is struggling can make us feel unhappy, lonely, you can feel like a failure, sometimes embarrassed ,shame and a feeling of being scared of what is going to happen.
Conversely When we are single and have struggled in past relationships, this too can have a debilitating effect, we see friends, family in relationships, this can leave us feeling isolated, we have to tolerate others view of us being single, that we must be sad or lonely, or friends trying to “find us “the right partner, we may question our decision or reasoning for be single,
Talking to my clients who are single, by choice, some say they love the freedom to do what they want, the independence, but most say, they do lose out on intimacy, not purely sexual intimacy, but intimacy of sharing, and being with another person to share their world.
“Therapy can help you start feeling more in control of your life and all your relationships, not just partners, but co-workers and siblings.
So therapy can help, which I believe is true but in my experience the scariest place for us at this time, at our most vulnerable, is to be deciding on therapy/counselling as the next step and then finding a therapist to lay bare all your secrets and life history and ‘trust’ them to keep you safe, and enable you to share and open up at a time in your life when “trust” is the hardest thing for you right now.
I offer this to give you the opportunity to meet me, albeit on the phone or Skype, no commitment, you can then make a choice and if I’m not right for you that is OK, I understand it’s scary and you will have lost nothing.
I’ve been told I am warm, and honest and make clients feel safe and confident,I offer a free call / Skype 30 minute session, to see if you wish to take it forward.I offer this to give you the opportunity to meet me, albeit on the phone or Skype, no commitment, you can then make a choice whether single or in a relationship.if I’m not right for you that is OK, I understand it’s scary and you will have lost nothing.
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“I am a therapist who can help you if you are struggling with your relationships,
My name is Mary Aaron. I am an Integrative Psychotherapist. Qualified and Experienced couples therapist, having trained at The Tavistock Centre, London, UK, internationally renowned experts. I currently work, part-time within an NHS setting; I also have a private practice. My passion is working with couples. I have been described as warm and open, however I also believe I am honest in my approach and feel it is a gift to challenge clients to discover their authentic self. I am a member of BACP and am on their accredited register. View all posts by Mary Aaron Couple Therapist
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